Comments on: Accepting motherhood http://www.mamablogga.com/accepting-motherhood/ mom's search for meaning Sat, 11 Feb 2012 12:38:50 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: westcoast http://www.mamablogga.com/accepting-motherhood/#comment-9074 westcoast Tue, 04 Jan 2011 23:01:00 +0000 http://www.mamablogga.com/accepting-motherhood/#comment-9074 i had a baby three years ago and i'm still not adjusted. me and the father were never together and i don't know what i was thinking. i was delusional.....it is so hard to accept that i'm responsible for this little girl's life. i am 42 years old and i am just exhausted! i had a baby three years ago and i’m still not adjusted. me and the father were never together and i don’t know what i was thinking. i was delusional…..it is so hard to accept that i’m responsible for this little girl’s life. i am 42 years old and i am just exhausted!

]]> By: ella http://www.mamablogga.com/accepting-motherhood/#comment-5879 ella Thu, 17 Jul 2008 14:48:11 +0000 http://www.mamablogga.com/accepting-motherhood/#comment-5879 I really struggled with my new identity as a mother. If I'm honest, it's only really time that has helped me accept that role. I still think motherhood is very difficult simply because of the way society regards mothers; I often feel invisible in society although I am happier these days in my role in myself. I have four children now and I can honestly say that the first baby is the hardest and then they get easier! I really struggled with my new identity as a mother. If I’m honest, it’s only really time that has helped me accept that role. I still think motherhood is very difficult simply because of the way society regards mothers; I often feel invisible in society although I am happier these days in my role in myself.

I have four children now and I can honestly say that the first baby is the hardest and then they get easier!

]]> By: Maria http://www.mamablogga.com/accepting-motherhood/#comment-5878 Maria Thu, 17 Jul 2008 10:39:23 +0000 http://www.mamablogga.com/accepting-motherhood/#comment-5878 maybe I'm a little paranoid from all of the people that give me that little "oh" when I tell them that I needed to work, and that I was going insane as a SAHM. I'm personally in the "do what works for your family" corner. :) maybe I’m a little paranoid from all of the people that give me that little “oh” when I tell them that I needed to work, and that I was going insane as a SAHM. I’m personally in the “do what works for your family” corner. :)

]]> By: Shannon http://www.mamablogga.com/accepting-motherhood/#comment-5870 Shannon Tue, 15 Jul 2008 21:59:27 +0000 http://www.mamablogga.com/accepting-motherhood/#comment-5870 Can I just say that I adjusted SOOO much easier to having 2 kids than having my first. I think it was the initial transition to motherhood that was harder than adding another little one to the household. I'm sure you will be fine. It is a little tougher trying to nap, get things done, bond with the baby, etc. with a 2 year old clamoring for your attention, but somehow things settle in and most days are great. :) Good luck with the new addition! I hope things go easier for you the second time around. Also, it may sound odd, but going back to work part time really helped me appreciate my role as a mother too (Maria). I don't think it's a horrendous thing to work either, so let's not be too down on it. I love staying home with my boys now, but I also really enjoyed keeping that professional part of me going too when I just had my first. I hope we can all make sure we don't condemn other mothers no matter how they deal (or have to deal with) the transition into motherhood. Can I just say that I adjusted SOOO much easier to having 2 kids than having my first. I think it was the initial transition to motherhood that was harder than adding another little one to the household. I’m sure you will be fine. It is a little tougher trying to nap, get things done, bond with the baby, etc. with a 2 year old clamoring for your attention, but somehow things settle in and most days are great. :) Good luck with the new addition! I hope things go easier for you the second time around.

Also, it may sound odd, but going back to work part time really helped me appreciate my role as a mother too (Maria). I don’t think it’s a horrendous thing to work either, so let’s not be too down on it. I love staying home with my boys now, but I also really enjoyed keeping that professional part of me going too when I just had my first. I hope we can all make sure we don’t condemn other mothers no matter how they deal (or have to deal with) the transition into motherhood.

]]> By: Lindsey http://www.mamablogga.com/accepting-motherhood/#comment-5867 Lindsey Tue, 15 Jul 2008 16:56:07 +0000 http://www.mamablogga.com/accepting-motherhood/#comment-5867 Gospel, my husband, and my mom. I had a rough time of it after both pregnancies. I blame unbalanced hormones and sleep deprivation; they really throw me for a loop! If I didn't have my knowledge that I was doing something incredibly worthwhile, or a husband to support me and let me cry, or a mom to help me see the light, I may have given my children up for adoption. After my twins were born I sat down one night after trying everything and they wouldn't stop crying and thought, "I can't do this. I just can't do this." And then I thought, "Well, what else am I going to do? I can't just stop being their mom." I try and try to mentally prepare myself for newborn life, but I've come to the conclusion (a little too late:)) that it's just not possible. If I ever have another, maybe it will be easier...maybe, but probably not:) The good thing is that it forced me to pray a lot harder and a lot more often. Mostly it just took time, but I don't think it would have happened if I didn't have my support system. Gospel, my husband, and my mom. I had a rough time of it after both pregnancies. I blame unbalanced hormones and sleep deprivation; they really throw me for a loop! If I didn’t have my knowledge that I was doing something incredibly worthwhile, or a husband to support me and let me cry, or a mom to help me see the light, I may have given my children up for adoption.
After my twins were born I sat down one night after trying everything and they wouldn’t stop crying and thought, “I can’t do this. I just can’t do this.” And then I thought, “Well, what else am I going to do? I can’t just stop being their mom.”
I try and try to mentally prepare myself for newborn life, but I’ve come to the conclusion (a little too late:)) that it’s just not possible. If I ever have another, maybe it will be easier…maybe, but probably not:)
The good thing is that it forced me to pray a lot harder and a lot more often. Mostly it just took time, but I don’t think it would have happened if I didn’t have my support system.

]]> By: Tara@From Dawn Till Rusk http://www.mamablogga.com/accepting-motherhood/#comment-5866 Tara@From Dawn Till Rusk Tue, 15 Jul 2008 13:45:35 +0000 http://www.mamablogga.com/accepting-motherhood/#comment-5866 I didn't have a maternal bone in my body when I was carrying my first child. But I loved being pregnant and when he came I would have gladly have given everything up for that defining moment when you baby is put on your chest and your husband or partner cuddles you both and the overwhelming thought is 'we've just made a family' Of course my second pregnancy was shockingly bad and I was a grumpy old cow for 9 months, but it all worked out in the end! I didn’t have a maternal bone in my body when I was carrying my first child.
But I loved being pregnant and when he came I would have gladly have given everything up for that defining moment when you baby is put on your chest and your husband or partner cuddles you both and the overwhelming thought is ‘we’ve just made a family’
Of course my second pregnancy was shockingly bad and I was a grumpy old cow for 9 months, but it all worked out in the end!

]]> By: Maria http://www.mamablogga.com/accepting-motherhood/#comment-5865 Maria Tue, 15 Jul 2008 13:45:20 +0000 http://www.mamablogga.com/accepting-motherhood/#comment-5865 This is going to sound horrible, but I was frustrated and miserable as a SAHM, and as soon as I went back to work (after 9 months), I really started to embrace the motherhood aspect of my life. I know it sounds horrid, but for me, it's true. This is going to sound horrible, but I was frustrated and miserable as a SAHM, and as soon as I went back to work (after 9 months), I really started to embrace the motherhood aspect of my life. I know it sounds horrid, but for me, it’s true.

]]> By: Summer http://www.mamablogga.com/accepting-motherhood/#comment-5864 Summer Tue, 15 Jul 2008 13:27:08 +0000 http://www.mamablogga.com/accepting-motherhood/#comment-5864 Ok, so when I was pregnant with my first, I just couldn't seem to accept that there were certain spaces I couldn't fit through anymore. I actually wedged myself between a counter top and a wall for a few seconds trying to squeeze through. That's when I was like, duh! Accept it, your belly is huge! I can't think of anything specific that helped me accept my new role as mother. I was just very excited about the whole things in general and so my transition into motherhood with my first went very smooth. Ok, so when I was pregnant with my first, I just couldn’t seem to accept that there were certain spaces I couldn’t fit through anymore. I actually wedged myself between a counter top and a wall for a few seconds trying to squeeze through. That’s when I was like, duh! Accept it, your belly is huge!

I can’t think of anything specific that helped me accept my new role as mother. I was just very excited about the whole things in general and so my transition into motherhood with my first went very smooth.

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