Being hard on yourself
The other day, I got a comment that really touched my heart, though not in a way you might expect. It was left on my post about being grateful for Hayden. Here’s the beginning of that comment:
I think you are very hard on yourself Jordan.
And oh, is it true. I’m sure people have told me this before, but for some reason, this time I heard it. And I hadn’t been particularly hard on myself that day or anything. (Being particularly hard on myself is a day when I feel as though I have to apologize to Hayden, saying I’m sorry that he doesn’t have a better mother.)
But I was very happy to hear that someone else thought I was being hard on myself. Because you know what that means? It means I’m apparently doing better than I thought!
The comment continues:
Honestly from what you have written, I see a very grateful Mummy, who loves her son very very much and wants the best for him.
Motherhood is such a huge journey of the heart.
Amen. Thank you, Tiffany!!
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I think Tiffany is right… every time I come here, Jordan, I see examples of beautiful parenting. Your love for Hayden shines through every syllable you write. I hope your family has a lovely Thanksgiving!
November 19th, 2007 at 7:41 pmMotherhood is such a huge journey of the heart.
Wow, that’s a great statement, and maybe a bit of an understatement too.
Have a great Thanksgiving.
November 20th, 2007 at 2:04 pmWe try so hard to be the perfect mothers that we really do need friends to remind us that we are good and should enjoy the “ride”, too. Well said, Tiffany.
November 23rd, 2007 at 9:05 amMy friends had a little b’day party for me the other night and we got talking about what changes I see ahead in the next year. I said that I’d like “to become a better mother,” and everyone jumped on me and said I was being too hard on myself. But I hadn’t meant that I thought that I was a “bad mom,” just that I really wanted to focus on motherhood in the year to come. I actually had your post in mind about not apologizing for holding our role of mom as important as our careers in our conversations.
I think you’re a GREAT mom . . . and I think it’s a wonderful thing to have the healthy–not guilty–desire to be an even better one, just like we do with our writing and other endeavors.
December 17th, 2007 at 2:59 pm