Comments on: How to choose happiness (part two) http://www.mamablogga.com/choose-happiness-part/ mom's search for meaning Sat, 11 Feb 2012 07:19:21 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Jordan http://www.mamablogga.com/choose-happiness-part/#comment-8096 Jordan Thu, 31 Dec 2009 23:10:17 +0000 http://www.mamablogga.com/?p=2086#comment-8096 @Lindsey—Exactly! And there are deeper gospel principles, there, too. I think I'll hit on those next week. @Bridget—No; I'll have to see if I can find him on one of the local stations (or online). Thanks for the tip! @Lindsey—Exactly! And there are deeper gospel principles, there, too. I think I’ll hit on those next week.

@Bridget—No; I’ll have to see if I can find him on one of the local stations (or online). Thanks for the tip!

]]> By: bridget {bake at 350} http://www.mamablogga.com/choose-happiness-part/#comment-8093 bridget {bake at 350} Thu, 31 Dec 2009 20:40:12 +0000 http://www.mamablogga.com/?p=2086#comment-8093 Have you ever listened to Dennis Prager's Happiness Hour on the radio? GREAT happiness topics! Have you ever listened to Dennis Prager’s Happiness Hour on the radio? GREAT happiness topics!

]]> By: Lindsey http://www.mamablogga.com/choose-happiness-part/#comment-8072 Lindsey Tue, 29 Dec 2009 22:08:46 +0000 http://www.mamablogga.com/?p=2086#comment-8072 This is something I've been learning this year, too. I actually wrote about it this summer for my mom, who works for the Church and needed some written personal experiences for something or other that I can't remember right now. You inspire me to find it and post it on my blog one of these days:) It's one of those close-to-my-heart things that I can't seem to word correctly, but I'll take a stab at it. The gist of it was that when it comes down to it, if I want to get what I want more than anything else (an eternal family) I need to give up (postpone, sacrifice, etc.) the minor things I want now and give of myself to my children and my family. Choosing every single day, hour, moment, however often it takes, to put my children and family ahead of me ultimately makes me happier and more fulfilled than if I focused on fulfilling my needs and wants first. I really liked what you said at the end: "It doesn’t mean that I am completely subjugated or I have to ignore all my own needs-" That's one of the hardest parts to get across to others. Just because I'm not first on the list doesn't mean that I allow myself to be completely overlooked and forgotten. I'm not losing myself or becoming a slave by choosing to put my children and family before me. Technically and ironically, I'm being quite selfish. I know that when I do choose happiness, focus on the bigger picture, and sacrifice first place in the needs and wants department, I'm much more likely to get what I want in the end. And, even though it seems counter-intuitive, it makes the process so much more pleasant and HAPPY. Again, I don't know if I really made sense there and I can't seem to write exactly what I've learned, but it's close enough to get the savory flavor, right?:) This is something I’ve been learning this year, too. I actually wrote about it this summer for my mom, who works for the Church and needed some written personal experiences for something or other that I can’t remember right now. You inspire me to find it and post it on my blog one of these days:) It’s one of those close-to-my-heart things that I can’t seem to word correctly, but I’ll take a stab at it.
The gist of it was that when it comes down to it, if I want to get what I want more than anything else (an eternal family) I need to give up (postpone, sacrifice, etc.) the minor things I want now and give of myself to my children and my family. Choosing every single day, hour, moment, however often it takes, to put my children and family ahead of me ultimately makes me happier and more fulfilled than if I focused on fulfilling my needs and wants first.
I really liked what you said at the end: “It doesn’t mean that I am completely subjugated or I have to ignore all my own needs-” That’s one of the hardest parts to get across to others. Just because I’m not first on the list doesn’t mean that I allow myself to be completely overlooked and forgotten. I’m not losing myself or becoming a slave by choosing to put my children and family before me. Technically and ironically, I’m being quite selfish. I know that when I do choose happiness, focus on the bigger picture, and sacrifice first place in the needs and wants department, I’m much more likely to get what I want in the end. And, even though it seems counter-intuitive, it makes the process so much more pleasant and HAPPY.
Again, I don’t know if I really made sense there and I can’t seem to write exactly what I’ve learned, but it’s close enough to get the savory flavor, right?:)

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