Comments on: To be a better mother http://www.mamablogga.com/to-be-a-better-mother/ mom's search for meaning Sat, 13 Mar 2010 22:20:27 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Michelle http://www.mamablogga.com/to-be-a-better-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-5844 Michelle Tue, 08 Jul 2008 19:36:17 +0000 http://www.mamablogga.com/to-be-a-better-mother/#comment-5844 Hi there, I've been typing in how to be a better mother on google. lol Seems terrible doesn't it? I am a 24 year old who has a 7 year old. I was great when I was taking care of the all needy baby. I love it. I had no problem giving all my time back then. I am not however so good at the 7 year old age. I have a hard time taking interest in the things she does as I am always brooding about bills or working on something for school, or working period. I have never really been one to (I know this sounds terrible) do the kid thing. When I do make the effort she does not seem interested. When she's done with her friends and games she thinks she can come back to me and go I'm ready now. Which doesn't work for all activities, weather, time of day etc. I really want to find things that we can do with each other that wont make me want to pull my hair out. I know this is an important as is anytime. I was an only child who never saw my mom because she worked all the time, so it was enough just to see her. My daughter is an only child but we had my mom and 9 year old brother move in over a year ago and now she always thinks that someone should be there to play with or entertain her. I know I should spend more time with her, but where do I draw the line? How do I start? Hi there,
I’ve been typing in how to be a better mother on google. lol Seems terrible doesn’t it? I am a 24 year old who has a 7 year old. I was great when I was taking care of the all needy baby. I love it. I had no problem giving all my time back then. I am not however so good at the 7 year old age. I have a hard time taking interest in the things she does as I am always brooding about bills or working on something for school, or working period. I have never really been one to (I know this sounds terrible) do the kid thing. When I do make the effort she does not seem interested. When she’s done with her friends and games she thinks she can come back to me and go I’m ready now. Which doesn’t work for all activities, weather, time of day etc. I really want to find things that we can do with each other that wont make me want to pull my hair out. I know this is an important as is anytime. I was an only child who never saw my mom because she worked all the time, so it was enough just to see her. My daughter is an only child but we had my mom and 9 year old brother move in over a year ago and now she always thinks that someone should be there to play with or entertain her. I know I should spend more time with her, but where do I draw the line? How do I start?

]]> By: jennifer http://www.mamablogga.com/to-be-a-better-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-4824 jennifer Thu, 07 Feb 2008 13:27:05 +0000 http://www.mamablogga.com/to-be-a-better-mother/#comment-4824 Hello,i was reading your ideas and loved your realness about not being a perfect mother ,it somehow allowed me to relax and breathe.I feel alot of anxiety about being a good mom ,and i want so bad to not mess up in any area if that's possible,but if not i want to learn what is more important to focus on rather than driving myself crazy about oh i shouldn't of said that or did that.I feel that being a mom we are their teachers and their examples,and that the kids really look up to us and mimic what they see, so at times what i might say or my attitudes or how i interact with others could be teaching them to do the same, not that i treat everyone in a bad fashion but my fiancee sometimes he has a real tendacy to get on my nerves,and he is so humble and helpful as far as the housework and pitching in for the cooking but he doesn't seem as passionate in being a awesome and great dad , he does play with them but he always is into t.v or the computer playing solaiter or whatever and what scares me is his dad had fifty kids forreal and wasn't a good father allin their life .and my kids are my everything he wants to love me and help in the house but i'm constantly looking to see if he has passion for his kids and so far i don't see enough to even go through with marriage, we attend church and read our word and believe in God and prayer but in the area of kids i think he'd rather have his time alone and just be without kids and be with me so i'm not passionately in love with him because of his lack of passion for rearing our children/ what are you'll opions on this matter. Hello,i was reading your ideas and loved your realness about not being a perfect mother ,it somehow allowed me to relax and breathe.I feel alot of anxiety about being a good mom ,and i want so bad to not mess up in any area if that’s possible,but if not i want to learn what is more important to focus on rather than driving myself crazy about oh i shouldn’t of said that or did that.I feel that being a mom we are their teachers and their examples,and that the kids really look up to us and mimic what they see, so at times what i might say or my attitudes or how i interact with others could be teaching them to do the same, not that i treat everyone in a bad fashion but my fiancee sometimes he has a real tendacy to get on my nerves,and he is so humble and helpful as far as the housework and pitching in for the cooking but he doesn’t seem as passionate in being a awesome and great dad , he does play with them but he always is into t.v or the computer playing solaiter or whatever and what scares me is his dad had fifty kids forreal and wasn’t a good father allin their life .and my kids are my everything he wants to love me and help in the house but i’m constantly looking to see if he has passion for his kids and so far i don’t see enough to even go through with marriage, we attend church and read our word and believe in God and prayer but in the area of kids i think he’d rather have his time alone and just be without kids and be with me so i’m not passionately in love with him because of his lack of passion for rearing our children/ what are you’ll opions on this matter.

]]> By: These three things make me a better listener. at Homeschool Diva http://www.mamablogga.com/to-be-a-better-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-3944 These three things make me a better listener. at Homeschool Diva Sun, 30 Sep 2007 00:59:16 +0000 http://www.mamablogga.com/to-be-a-better-mother/#comment-3944 [...] @ MamaBlogga - To Be a Better Mother Filed under Simple Faith, mommy stuff, Friends, Life [...] [...] @ MamaBlogga – To Be a Better Mother Filed under Simple Faith, mommy stuff, Friends, Life [...]

]]> By: These 3 Qualities Group Writing Project - Results | The Diary of a Hope Filled Mom http://www.mamablogga.com/to-be-a-better-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-3929 These 3 Qualities Group Writing Project - Results | The Diary of a Hope Filled Mom Fri, 28 Sep 2007 18:24:31 +0000 http://www.mamablogga.com/to-be-a-better-mother/#comment-3929 [...] Jordan @ MamaBlogga - To Be a Better Mother [...] [...] Jordan @ MamaBlogga – To Be a Better Mother [...]

]]> By: Twisted Cinderella http://www.mamablogga.com/to-be-a-better-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-3883 Twisted Cinderella Wed, 26 Sep 2007 00:34:03 +0000 http://www.mamablogga.com/to-be-a-better-mother/#comment-3883 I agree with this. I really try to put more of myself into the time I spend with my girl. I agree with this. I really try to put more of myself into the time I spend with my girl.

]]> By: GWP Turnout | the so called me http://www.mamablogga.com/to-be-a-better-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-3879 GWP Turnout | the so called me Tue, 25 Sep 2007 21:02:55 +0000 http://www.mamablogga.com/to-be-a-better-mother/#comment-3879 [...] Jordan @ MamaBlogga - To Be a Better Mother [...] [...] Jordan @ MamaBlogga – To Be a Better Mother [...]

]]> By: childlife http://www.mamablogga.com/to-be-a-better-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-3871 childlife Tue, 25 Sep 2007 09:56:35 +0000 http://www.mamablogga.com/to-be-a-better-mother/#comment-3871 Great post Jordan - your list of three really does sum things up nicely! They do all tend to go hand in hand, don't they? Great post Jordan – your list of three really does sum things up nicely! They do all tend to go hand in hand, don’t they?

]]> By: Kathy in WA http://www.mamablogga.com/to-be-a-better-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-3868 Kathy in WA Tue, 25 Sep 2007 07:15:43 +0000 http://www.mamablogga.com/to-be-a-better-mother/#comment-3868 I'm so behind in my blog reading. I want to savor and read all of your latest posts when I'm awake enough to remember and actually benefit from your wisdom. In other words, it's late and I just stopped by. I don't have time to read right now but I wanted to validate you and your lovely blog and send lots of commenting bloggy love your way before I head off to bed. :) I’m so behind in my blog reading. I want to savor and read all of your latest posts when I’m awake enough to remember and actually benefit from your wisdom. In other words, it’s late and I just stopped by. I don’t have time to read right now but I wanted to validate you and your lovely blog and send lots of commenting bloggy love your way before I head off to bed. :)

]]> By: phyllis@imabima http://www.mamablogga.com/to-be-a-better-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-3858 phyllis@imabima Tue, 25 Sep 2007 02:27:30 +0000 http://www.mamablogga.com/to-be-a-better-mother/#comment-3858 those are a great list. i think that focus...being present and in the "now" is probably the key for me. thanks for this great post! those are a great list. i think that focus…being present and in the “now” is probably the key for me. thanks for this great post!

]]> By: Madame M http://www.mamablogga.com/to-be-a-better-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-3854 Madame M Mon, 24 Sep 2007 20:13:22 +0000 http://www.mamablogga.com/to-be-a-better-mother/#comment-3854 Besides my awesomeness, you mean? Oh right. I agree. Patience is the mother of all good motherhood, along with good quality help. I think it's much harder to do a good job of mothering someone if you have to go it alone-- without a network of support of any kind. Besides my awesomeness, you mean?

Oh right. I agree. Patience is the mother of all good motherhood, along with good quality help. I think it’s much harder to do a good job of mothering someone if you have to go it alone– without a network of support of any kind.

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