Comments on: Vacation from guilt?

By: summershine

summershine — Wed, 08 Aug 2007 02:38:15 +0000

Ha, I had no idea you were LDS! I’ve been amazed at how many LDS bloggers I’ve run across at random.

By: Shawn

Shawn — Tue, 07 Aug 2007 13:50:54 +0000

Oh, yeah … try it with twins! We’ve suffered, our marriage has suffered, too, since we are are financially strapped. We have finally gotten out twice in the last week thanks to asking for help for the first and second times. I do feel guilty for asking, though, because I feel like if my inlaws or mother wanted to help they would volunteer and try to be here more. My mother just made her first trip here since moving 12 hours away when my babies were just 4 months old. I’m still pretty angry at her selfish decision. But, I do feel a sitter — now — is worth the money to help our sanity. I love the co-op idea for daytime outtings.

By: It takes a Village :: Mommy Babble

It takes a Village :: Mommy Babble — Tue, 07 Aug 2007 11:08:20 +0000

[...] if we aren’t told these things we’ll often feel them still. MamaBlogga shares her own guilt on letting her family watch the kids while she’s on vacation. Having support nearby that could help more [...]

By: Grace

Grace — Tue, 07 Aug 2007 04:48:56 +0000

My family, who I see once every year only, is always hungry for baby smells and baby blahs so I don’t need them to tell them to take care of the tot for me. They literally shove me off so they can have the baby to themselves!!

By: mommyzabs

mommyzabs — Tue, 07 Aug 2007 03:57:04 +0000

I’m no longer away… but I was when Owen was an only child and it was much harder. I was pregnant and HAD to do appointment and such… I put him in a parents day out program near my house… he absolutely loved it. I had to have it so that i had a time I could scheduled things. Another thing is going to a gym that offers baby-sitting. It’s 2 birds with one stone! Church is great too for community that can help out.

By: Happy House Quilts

Happy House Quilts — Tue, 07 Aug 2007 02:58:59 +0000

I am very fortunate to have an organization here in NH called the Children’s Place…it’s a mommy co-op and you can volunteer and hang out and play or use it for drop off respite to get your brain together…not that i have been using it lately…now i babysit another one…so that brings me to 4 at home this summer…but I also swap off with other mom/neighbors…we started just doing playdates…meet them at story time, walking in the neighborhood…and then do playdates together so all the kids get to know each other…i have one friend (so blessed to have her in my life) that literally lives up the road…she even called me when she went into labor with #2 to stay with #1 who was 2 and sleeping…moms helping moms…sometimes we just have to give ourselves permission to let others help…most folks want to…no guilt!!! We need to rejuvinate our souls!!! Be gentle to yourself! Jodi

By: bellevelma

bellevelma — Mon, 06 Aug 2007 21:19:12 +0000

I don’t see it as dumping the kid on the relatives. Usually kids are so entertaining the relatives can’t wait to get a hold of them. I like to tell myself it’s their chance to spend time with their grandchild or their newphew, etc…

By: Jordan

Jordan — Mon, 06 Aug 2007 20:44:22 +0000

LOL, Summer: your church = my church (or did you already know that?). And living in Utah, my neighbors are church members and they are a good support system, too. That’s why I feel bad when I say I don’t have a support system, because I really, really could call on these people but . . . I would feel bad. Just like I do with my real family.

By: summershine

summershine — Mon, 06 Aug 2007 20:35:14 +0000

Ah the joys of typing one handed. Can’t spell worth beans like this.

By: summershine

summershine — Mon, 06 Aug 2007 20:33:53 +0000

Mine and my husband’s families are thousands of miles away.
It would be much easier if they were close.
We are thankful for our church out here though. It’s a worldwide oeganization and it really does feel familiar and like family in a way, no matter where you go. We have instant friends and poeople who share our values through it and many of the other mothers and I will do babysitting swaps.