Comments on: Why fulfillment?

By: An Ordinary Mom

An Ordinary Mom — Mon, 02 Jul 2007 00:53:53 +0000

I really needed to hear this today. Thanks!

By: Daisy

Daisy — Sat, 30 Jun 2007 23:18:30 +0000

I often feel unappreciated in my job, much less than in motherhood. Public school teachers are not well-liked in my neck of the woods. I’ve been verbally attacked so many times it’s made me consider quitting. But motherhood; whether my kids know it or not, I’ve done right by them.

By: Motherhood, life, and happiness :: Mommy Babble

Motherhood, life, and happiness :: Mommy Babble — Sat, 30 Jun 2007 15:31:12 +0000

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By: Jordan

Jordan — Sat, 30 Jun 2007 03:58:32 +0000

Hayden discovered the fun of dumping the cat’s food into the water bowl today. It looked delicious.

I really do think he eats it sometimes.

By: Meghan

Meghan — Sat, 30 Jun 2007 03:51:59 +0000

What a great entry.

Sometimes I feel like I let things slide in favor of doing something my son wants/needs… but, for the most part, I feel more fulfilled with him in my life than I ever did before. And, I feel accomplished just getting through the day as I never did before.

And, I laughed so hard at the part about the cat food. Though, for me, it’s the dogs’ food and water. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had to clean up that mess!

By: Stacey

Stacey — Sat, 30 Jun 2007 02:52:18 +0000

Fulfillment in the past has been a little elusive for me. I have spent too much time looking and planning for that time where I will “be at my peak” and doing something of “importance”. I always pictured that time as a big, grand, public event What I failed to notice is that as a mother, the time is now. I needed to realize that I am of utmost importance to the beautiful souls that I brought into the world. It took a third little surprise in our family to help me realize that I just had to let go of the control and stop searching for the next best thing. I have 3 beautiful children, that I now consider my biggest accomplishment. Thanks for your post!

By: Jordan

Jordan — Sat, 30 Jun 2007 00:08:43 +0000

Jen, I agree that there are many other things in my life that contribute to feeling fulfilled, not the least of which is my job or blogging (not to mention my marriage). The thing that I’m worried about is people thinking it’s impossible to find fulfillment as a mother, and that only other things will bring fulfillment.

By: jen

jen — Fri, 29 Jun 2007 23:26:07 +0000

It’s a hard thing this fulfillment. I became a mother unexpectedly, well pregnant unexpectedly and it hadn’t been in my life plan at all.

Now my son is part of me being fulfilled (especially lately) but not the only thing and it’s good to get a reminder that the world doesn’t have to be on hold to be fulfilled while our kids are young.

By: Jordan

Jordan — Fri, 29 Jun 2007 20:45:21 +0000

I’ve been in a “if I could just get through this” rut all week. I think acknowledging that there can be rough patches is important. But instead of saying “if I could just get through toddlerhood” (or motherhood), instead of making the problem ourselves or our children, maybe we should tell ourselves that it’s hard sometimes, and this is just a rough day or week.

(We’re going through the two-naps-to-one-nap transition. It’s tough afternoon a lot around here.)

By: Summer

Summer — Fri, 29 Jun 2007 20:33:26 +0000

This is so true. I’ve found myself in the “if I just get through this…” rut many times. But I’ve decided not to see motherhood as something to “get through” but as a part of life to cherish and enjoy.