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Fulfillment Faith

Remember Thanksgiving

At Thanksgiving (in America), we remember our many blessings. Usually, we focus on big ones: family, freedom, upcoming books. But remembering the little things is important too, and not just on an annual day of thanks.

In this year’s General Relief Society Meeting, Elder Dieter F. Uchtdorf spoke about things that we need to remember, using the image of a forget-me-not flower as a symbol. One of the things we need to remember, he says, is to focus on the wonderful parts of our life:

The lesson here is that if we spend our days waiting for fabulous roses, we could miss the beauty and wonder of the tiny forget-me-nots that are all around us.

This is not to say that we should abandon hope or temper our goals. Never stop striving for the best that is within you. Never stop hoping for all of the righteous desires of your heart. But don’t close your eyes and hearts to the simple and elegant beauties of each day’s ordinary moments that make up a rich, well-lived life.

The happiest people I know are not those who find their golden ticket; they are those who, while in pursuit of worthy goals, discover and treasure the beauty and sweetness of the everyday moments. They are the ones who, thread by daily thread, weave a tapestry of gratitude and wonder throughout their lives. These are they who are truly happy.

What do you think? How do you forget not the beauty and sweetness of today?

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Random

Happy Thanksgiving!

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Kids/Parenting

Rachel Banana

Rachel loves to wiggle and shake. The other day I watched her waggling her head all around. “I love your dancing,” I told her.

She smiled, and either blew me a kiss—or signed thank you.


Rachel’s middle name is Diana; she’s named after my mother. Growing up, my mother had a nickname she absolutely hated: Banana Cake. (I only tell you this in the strictest confidence. Do NOT use this against my mother.)

Rachel doesn’t really talk. For a couple days, she said “Out” a lot. She has managed to hold onto “Uh ohs!” whenever she sees something on the ground. But her signs are really picking up. She’s gotten really good at Thank you, and also learned please, apple, baby and:

Rachel, banana.

I also love how she signs music:

The “official signs”: banana, music.

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Fulfillment

Moms are worth more than a paycheck

Last month, I received a PR email about an interesting study of working and stay-at-home moms. I found the results a lot more interesting than the underlying attitude. First, they had women identify themselves as “career-oriented,” and then tell whether they were working or staying at home now.

Indeed, our survey found widespread work/life disconnection: Women want one arrangement, but settle for another. Fifty-five percent of career-oriented stay-at-home moms we surveyed, for instance, would prefer to be working now. Equally troubling, 71 percent of mothers surveyed equate work with something done only to pick up a paycheck.
[Working moms would] like to scale back during preschool years. We discovered strong feelings about these early bonding years with about half of career-oriented moms ranking staying home with preschool children as desirable. [Hooray!] Some 42 percent of career-oriented moms, for example, said that allowing their children to be cared for by professionals did not meet their definition of being a good mother. Part of the issue is that moms are ambivalent about child-care centers: their cost, their quality and the enduring implication that “someone else” is raising their children. . . .

Yes, working moms (51 percent) feel guilty about not spending enough time with their kids. And stay-at-home moms (55 percent) worry about not making a contribution to the family finances.

The study also looked at other ways mothers are unhappy with our lives. Slightly less than half of all mothers say that they are their own worst critics. I certainly feel the most pressure to perform from me. Another prevalent concern: the house. It’s a wreck, whether you’re working or not—55% of working mothers and 44% of stay-at-home mothers frequently feel bad about how their house looks—we’re very worried that other people are judging our homes (42% of working moms & 35% of SAHMs say they worry about this).

Very interesting—and it makes me feel a lot better about myself, if not my house 😉 .

But there’s a very troubling message underneath all this. The article about the study is written for working moms (but 71% of these moms claim only to be working for the paycheck). The message in the study’s conclusion is that you should put off having children (until after college & age 25, so not forever) so you can make as much as possible. But that isn’t the worst part—that comes in the underlying assumption.

Are we really only worth what we make? I don’t buy it, and I don’t think even career-oriented moms should buy into that mentality. There are so many careers out there that have far more influence in the world than the pay suggests, and there are lots of careers with great pay and benefits that just aren’t for everyone. Just like stay-at-home moms, career-oriented moms (career- and anything-else oriented people!) have to find a definition of themselves that’s more than the number of figures before the decimal point.

What do you think?

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MetaBlogging

WordPress on Bluehost: the Post page in depth

This entry is part 3 of 5 in the series Set up WordPress on BlueHost

Last time we covered how to make posts and pages. This time we’ll look at a few more features of the Add New Post or Edit Post page.

Posts are the basic unit of a blog. They are not to be confused with Pages, however. Pages are usually where you place special “timeless” information such as your About page, your Contact page, etc. Your posts are generally for chronological or “regular” blog entries.

To write a post, go to Post>Add New, or click on the New Post button on the top bar. The top text box below “Add New Post” sets the post title, which appears at the top of the post. If you don’t set a post title, it will be published without a title. Once you input a title and WordPress autosaves (or you click the Save Draft button), a field appears below the title box with the URL the post will have, including the “slug”: the URL name for this post (highlighted in yellow).


If you don’t give the post a title before you save the draft (or WordPress autosaves one), WordPress assigns the post a number. Every post in your WordPress blog has a number, of course. Saving a draft of the post with a title will replace the slug.

If you’d like to change the slug yourself—to make it easier to remember, shorter, or more friendly to search engines—click on the Edit button. The slug portion of the URL turns into a text field. Be sure to save your changes.

Below the title box is the post box. In the box, you type the content for the post. At the top of the box are the buttons to upload media: image, video, audio, or other media (we’ll talk more about adding pictures and media next time).

Most of the buttons above the post window are fairly intuitive. From left to right, they are:

  • Bold
  • Italicize
  • Strike through (a popular convention in blogging)
  • Bulleted list
  • Numbered list
  • Blockquote (indents text; also may add some styling depending on your theme)
  • Align left
  • Align center
  • Align right
  • Create link (only an option if you have selected text)
  • Unlink (only an option if you have selected linked text)
  • Split post with More tag (creating a Read more. . . link on your blog homepage and feed)
  • Spellcheck (with pull down for languages)
  • Toggle fullscreen mode (makes the post box take up the whole browser window)
  • Show or hide advanced toolbar (“Kitchen Sink” they call it):

Clicking on the last button adds a second toolbar below the first.

The advanced toolbar buttons, from left to right, are:

  • Preset formatting styles (drop down menu)
  • Underline
  • Align full (justified)
  • Select text color
  • Paste as plain text
  • Paste from Microsoft Word
  • Remove formatting
  • Insert/edit embedded media
  • Insert a custom or special character (letters with accents, etc.)
  • Unindent (only an option if the paragraph you’re editing is indented)
  • Indent
  • Undo
  • Redo
  • Help

Other capabilities on the New Post page:

  • Drag and drop the individual boxes to customize the page so you can find all the things you use commonly. Just click on the title bar of a box and hold to drag.
  • Toggle each box open or closed for clutter/cleanliness. Just click the down triangle on the title bar of the box (shown at right, it appears when you hover over the box).
  • Assign a post a category—be sure to check the box beside the category name in the Categories box at the right, below the Publish (this may also be below the Tags box). (If this box is ‘closed,’ click the triangle at the end of the box to ‘open’ it.)

  • Add a new category—click +Add New Category. (See also Creating Categories.)
  • Add tags to a post (topics addressed in a post which are not as central or important to your blog as topics covered in categories)–use the Tags box. This is on the right side below the Publish box. After typing the tags, click Add. To remove tags, click the x next to the tag.
  • Disable comments and/or pings (links back from other blogs that link to your post)—use the options in the Discussion box in the main column.
  • Select a different author for a post—use the Author box. (If this box is ‘closed,’ click the + sign by the title of the box to ‘open’ it.)
  • Set an optional excerpt—type a short summary or cut-and-paste a section of your post into the (Optional) Excerpt box. This is included in the code of your page and may be used by search engines to display info about the page on the search engine results page.
  • Send a trackback (a comment-like notification to another blog post that your post includes a link to it)—put the URL of the linked post in the Send Trackbacks box. However, WordPress can also be set to automatically send trackbacks to any link included in your post by checking the first option under Settings>Discussion which reads “Attempt to notify any blogs linked to from the article (slows down posting.).”
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Kids/Parenting

Rebecca sayings

Ryan and I were talking last night about how Rebecca didn’t really talk until she was at least 18 months old. In fact, she hardly ever even made noise until she discovered screaming at 8 months. Even her laughter was quiet: scrunching her nose and sniffing.

Yeah, those days are a distant memory now. But with the cute things she says, I guess it’s okay.


Rebecca got her first real haircut!


Just kidding! (Silly you.)


We bought a bag of Reese’s minis for Rebecca as an incentive. “Are dey gowd?”

“Yes, they’re gold.”

“Are dey gowd doub’oons? [Doubloons] . . . No, dey are just gowd.”


Rebecca gets her middle name right about half the time; the other half she thinks her middle name is the same as Hayden’s (a mistake he’s just learning to correct). But she knows Rachel’s middle name, apparently because I say it so much. She even knows what it means:

“Waychew Deana [Rachel Diana] means ‘Come hewe!'”


“Good job, Bex,” I told her as we were cleaning up.

“No, I not Bex. I jus’ one Becca!”


During Rachel’s nap one Saturday, I left the other kids playing on the computer while Ryan went to church for a bit. When I came back from my shower, Rebecca announced, “We take gooood cawe of Wachew, Mommy! We takin’ good cawe o’ ouwsewves.


Rebecca the ice princess (note the hat and the tiara)