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Kids/Parenting

Getting kids to eat vegetables

The other night I turned to my husband, Ryan, and said, “Do you think Hayden is a picky eater?”

“YES!” he said without hesitation.

I don’t think so, though. He eats a wide variety of foods: the standard toddler fare of peanut butter, bananas, graham crackers, fruit other than bananas, yogurt, bread, milk, juice, desserts, pizza, cheese, TUNA!!! (which has become a family joke), green beans, black beans, corn, etc. He doesn’t care what color his food is, he doesn’t care if it’s touching one another and while he does love his “yunt” (lunch, meaning sandwich, usually peanut butter), he’s not fixated on one single food.

Today, I’ll just focus on the vegetables—what can we do to get our kids to eat more vegetables (or is this one of “those” battles?)

  • Offer the food repeatedly (without high expectations). Some people say it takes as many as 16 (no, not 16,000) interactions with a food for children to try it. Hopefully these do not all come at one sitting; that seems a little excessive, yes?
  • Let them see you eat it. You’re the best example for your children. Hayden won’t eat pepperoni, even though his father does, because he’s seen me pick it off my pizza too many times. This isn’t always mandatory of course—for the most part, Hayden has not yet picked up on what foods I don’t eat. I was 22 when I realized my mother didn’t eat peas. I love peas!
  • Have veggies ready and available for snacks (and often nothing else). Also helpful here: let them use ranch dressing, or another dressing they like. Ketchup, if you must (hey, isn’t that a vegetable? 😉 ).
  • Fill half a child’s plate with veggies. Another quarter should be meat and the last quarter, starch. Quick and easy guide to balancing your meals.
  • Serve veggies “family-style,” leave the rest in the kitchen. When sitting down to dinner, only bring the platters/bowls of vegetables to the table. Leave starches and meats in the kitchen—if you really want more of those, you’ll have to go get them, but if you or your children are just hungry after finishing your first plate, the vegetables are the only convenient choice.
  • Play games. My mother would play that our thin-cut green beans were worms and we were baby birds. I love green beans (though the thin-cut ones are just a bit slimy for my taste 😉 ). Another favorite: your child (this one’s usually better for boys) is a dinosaur and he’s going to eat the trees (broccoli).
  • Hide them if you have to. Zucchini banana bread, anyone? (Nope, me neither.)
  • A caveat: Don’t bargain, especially not for ‘better’ foods. Apparently, psychologists say that bargaining with your children (“Eat two more bites of peas or no dessert!”) just reinforces the notion that the food they’re averse to is disgusting, worse than the desired food and something to be endured.

And I can’t talk about eating habits without mentioning an awesome book on the subject, Mindless Eating: Why We Eat More Than We Think by Brian Wansink. Some of these tips come right from his book.

I found this book really entertaining—and pretty shocking. He looks at our hidden motivations for eating, factors that influence us in eating—and strategies for being more aware of what we eat (or just tricking ourselves into eating less!).

But obviously, I’m no expert in getting your children to eat their veggies. What’s worked for you?

Part of Works-for-me Wednesday.

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Fulfillment

The little things

Sometimes I feel like I won’t feel happy with motherhood until my children are grown and living good lives of their own—when my job is “done.” But not only is that kind of silly, it ignores the fact that I can be happy as a mother today.

And sometimes the things that make me happy as a mother are the tiny details that make a day go easier:

  • Hayden’s sippy is full when I get it out of the fridge
  • Hayden asks to read a book instead of watch TV
  • Hayden counts (two, pour, pie, tih, ten!)
  • Hayden goes down for a nap or bedtime peacefully
  • Hayden eats something after he’s asked for it.

What are the little things that make you smile and make your day go easier?

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Kids/Parenting

The big transition: a big boy bed

Haydiebug is growing up! Sometime in the next few months, we’re really thinking of getting him into a “big boy bed.”

I’m worried, though, about helping him understand that he would have to stay in the bed. In his crib, he’s quite contained. But he’s not always asleep. Today, for example, it took him more than an hour before he fell asleep for his nap (during which time I usually have to repeat a mantra about not being emotionally invested in whether or not he sleeps 😉 ). I’m not terribly fond of the idea of him spending that time (and more) out of his bed, playing with any- and everything in his room.

Is there any way to teach him to stay in a big boy bed? What worked for you with this transition? What didn’t?

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Kids/Parenting

Should I say anything?

A while ago, I was driving home from church. I happened to notice that a friend was driving home right behind me. We both live less than four blocks from the church. (I know, I know, you’re about to say, “But, Jordan, don’t you care about the environment?” Well, thanks to the latest Duraflame commercial, no. And it’s very cold and snowy here. We walk when it’s nice.)

I glanced in the rear view mirror at one point on the short drive and noticed that my friend had her three-year-old sitting on her lap, behind the driver’s seat.

I don’t think she’s the kind to do this sort of the often. I don’t know how on earth I would ever broach the subject with her, but should I say anything?

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Random

For the boy who has everything

Okay, so maybe Hayden doesn’t have everything, but the kid’s got it pretty good. He’s got dozens of toys and only his parent to share them with—and a birthday coming up.

What do you get a little boy that doesn’t really need more toys for his birthday? (Great toy suggestions are, of course, welcome, too.)

I had a couple ideas:

  • Outdoor furniture. (No, really—I saw this cute plastic Adirondack table and chairs set at the store and thought that would be fun for Hayden in the summer. Not now with our six+ inches of snow, though.)
  • Books. (When shopping for friends, you may want to get suggestions for their library, just so you don’t get them something they already have.)
  • Art supplies/crafts. (Even Hayden loves to color. Especially nice—something they can do together as a family.)

What else will make a kid’s life complete?

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Random

I’m molasses in January

We’re still recovering from traveling (read: digging out from a lot of laundry and staring at the suitcases in the family room) and just not quite getting back into the routine around here.

Glad I haven’t gotten around to writing down those New Year’s Resolutions yet!

Anybody else having a slow start to the year?